Comments on: Impulsivity and Regret http://novemberblue.wordpress.com/2009/01/14/impulsivity-and-regret/ eating disorder recovery, what shreds of life exist outside of my eating disorder Mon, 14 Sep 2009 02:12:36 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Harriet Welch http://novemberblue.wordpress.com/2009/01/14/impulsivity-and-regret/#comment-163 Harriet Welch Thu, 15 Jan 2009 00:21:28 +0000 http://novemberblue.wordpress.com/?p=291#comment-163 According to dictionary.com: impulsive = Inclined to act on impulse rather than thought compulsive = Caused or conditioned by compulsion or obsession I hate when they use the word in the definition. impulse = A sudden wish or urge that prompts an unpremeditated act or feeling compulsion = An irresistible impulse to act, regardless of the rationality of the motivation That's so not helpful, is it? To me an impulse is a one time thing, a compulsion is when one does something over and over again. But I just made that up, better check with a psychiatrist. But in any case, I think there is something to be said for impulsive decisions. You know your personality better than anyone, so you know whether or not you can trust your impulses. It sounds like you're not trusting them completely right now due to lots of anxiety and change in your life. I'm sorry for your distress, I hope you feel better soon. According to dictionary.com:

impulsive = Inclined to act on impulse rather than thought

compulsive = Caused or conditioned by compulsion or obsession

I hate when they use the word in the definition.

impulse = A sudden wish or urge that prompts an unpremeditated act or feeling

compulsion = An irresistible impulse to act, regardless of the rationality of the motivation

That’s so not helpful, is it? To me an impulse is a one time thing, a compulsion is when one does something over and over again. But I just made that up, better check with a psychiatrist.

But in any case, I think there is something to be said for impulsive decisions. You know your personality better than anyone, so you know whether or not you can trust your impulses. It sounds like you’re not trusting them completely right now due to lots of anxiety and change in your life.

I’m sorry for your distress, I hope you feel better soon.

]]> By: eshoe http://novemberblue.wordpress.com/2009/01/14/impulsivity-and-regret/#comment-162 eshoe Wed, 14 Jan 2009 18:29:32 +0000 http://novemberblue.wordpress.com/?p=291#comment-162 I agree with Lola. I had plans to move (within my company) to another state, had an apartment with 2 other friends lined up....only to cancel out at the last minute. Had I not cancelled, I never would have met my husband. Yet the guilt I felt was overwhelming, I had let so many people down. When instead I should have been concentrating on my needs (in a healthy manner), I wanted to please others. Your gut tells you what the right thing is to do; follow it. I agree with Lola. I had plans to move (within my company) to another state, had an apartment with 2 other friends lined up….only to cancel out at the last minute.

Had I not cancelled, I never would have met my husband. Yet the guilt I felt was overwhelming, I had let so many people down. When instead I should have been concentrating on my needs (in a healthy manner), I wanted to please others.

Your gut tells you what the right thing is to do; follow it.

]]> By: Lola Snow http://novemberblue.wordpress.com/2009/01/14/impulsivity-and-regret/#comment-161 Lola Snow Wed, 14 Jan 2009 05:16:13 +0000 http://novemberblue.wordpress.com/?p=291#comment-161 Sometimes I think people can make all the right thought process, weigh up their options and make a hard decision, only to regret it later and mark it down as impulsive. If you make a decision which pushes you out of your comfort zone, it can leave you feeling exposed and vunerable. Easier afterwards to beat yourself up for being impulsive, than to look at why you are feeling exposed. Nothing you have done cannot be undone if you want it to be. People generally take these things so much better than you think they will, and understand if you regret putting yourself out there, When you have a lot going on, it can be too much, too soon, or just too much full stop. There are always choices NB, you are a strong and brave person, capable of running your own life, and dictating your own decisions. Hang tough. I respect you a lot, and nothing will change that. Lola x Sometimes I think people can make all the right thought process, weigh up their options and make a hard decision, only to regret it later and mark it down as impulsive. If you make a decision which pushes you out of your comfort zone, it can leave you feeling exposed and vunerable. Easier afterwards to beat yourself up for being impulsive, than to look at why you are feeling exposed.

Nothing you have done cannot be undone if you want it to be. People generally take these things so much better than you think they will, and understand if you regret putting yourself out there, When you have a lot going on, it can be too much, too soon, or just too much full stop. There are always choices NB, you are a strong and brave person, capable of running your own life, and dictating your own decisions.

Hang tough. I respect you a lot, and nothing will change that.

Lola x

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